The Jillian Problem

Hey all. I’m a huge fan of the show Family Guy. A few seasons ago one of the characters, Brian, was in a relationship with a young lady named Jillian, a beautiful blonde with a nicely drawn body who was also about as dumb as a box of rocks. The back and forth between Brian, an intellectual, and Jillian, a half wit, was oft times hilarious and perfectly illustrated the lengths that some of us guys will go to just to have a beautiful woman on our arm…but is that illustration realistic or just for kicks and giggles by Seth MacFarlane and his crew of writers? According to a few friends of mine that situation is not too far from fiction.

I wrote a blog a few days ago that told of a roundtable with some of my friends, during that conversation there was a consensus that when we’re talking about the ideal woman we would much rather have a woman with intelligence. What I didn’t expect from sharing that was that a couple of my friends remarked that men wanting a intelligent woman wasn’t realistic, rather, men wanting a less than bright bulb as a mate has made some women act a little dumber than they are for the sake of getting attention from a man. In the case of Brian from the aforementioned Family Guy he knew going in that Jillian was a few doughnuts short of a dozen but he remained in the relationship because of her good looks and what I’m guessing might have been some great animated sex. Jillian wasn’t acting the part or dumbing herself down in order to gain the affections of a man, it’s simply who she was; but apparently something, likely desperation, is causing this to happen in real women in these times. I found that hard to believe but I’m told that this actually happens and I have no reason to think that my people would lie to me.

I won’t count myself as the smartest man on the planet, mySATscores didn’t blow any schools on my list away and my high school and collegiate GPA left a but to be desired but my subjects and verbs agree 97% of the time and I’ve read more than 17 books so I think that makes me a little intelligent. Even in my “tad bit intelligence” I can honestly say that I’ve never wanted a dumb girl, and more than that, I wouldn’t want an intelligent girl that was acting dumb just to get my affections. That seems incredibly, well, unintelligent. I asked around and the reasoning that I got was that men are intimidated by a woman that can hold her own mentally so women have to pump the brakes on their mental acumen in order to not chase guys away because Lord knows said woman will end up alone if she lets on that she’s interested in more than the color of her next pair of shoes. While there may be a little truth to the intimidation factor in some cases (I’ll go ahead and just speak for me here, I won’t assume other guys feel this way) I’ve still never wanted a dimwit, that’s just no fun, it’s like playing Madden against the kid down the street that was born with no thumbs, sure you win by a large margin but you know that your opponent was overmatched.

I’m guessing that some dudes would want a dull knife for obvious reasons (easier to coerce into horizontal dealings) but I would still like to think that guys are not at all the dinosaurs that we’re suggested to be. More than that, I would love to think that women aren’t falling victim to the fallacy that men aren’t willing to deal with a woman that actually chooses to use and take advantage of her brain so she chooses to play dumb just because. Is this true? Men, do you like an intelligent woman or do you chase after the lesser thans because they are an easier target? Women, are you true to yourself or are you “playing Jillian” and holding back who you truly are in order to keep your man options high? It seems odd to even have to ask this but since it was brought up to me I figured I might as well put it out there and see what sticks. Let me know what you think.

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4 thoughts on “The Jillian Problem

  1. Saudia

    When I started reading your blog last year I thought to myself “now here is a guy that gets it” (It didn’t hurt that you went to GSU) Oh but then I read your blog today and said to myself “okay maybe he doesn’t” I am currently having a Facebook debate about a study that found that the more education a woman has the less likely she is to get married. While intelligence may be important to you, I would question how important. If a girl was about a 4 in the looks department but was intelligent, well rounded, good job, home, car, God fearing etc…would you date her? The political correctness in most men would say “oh yeah I would it doesn’t matter” I say Yeah right. Most men wouldn’t approach her at a party, cook out, church event or wherever simply because she was a 4. Men are visual creatures. You all need to be enticed. Unless an intellectual woman is also good looking she will have a hard time finding a man.

    • I’m sorry that you have such a negative opinion of men and what attracts men to women. I’d certainly try to change your opinion but you seem set in your ways but I will leave you with this. A good number of the men that you apparently haven’t met (and I say this because your view appears to be based on the men that are in your circle) are intelligent enough to know that there is more to a woman than how she looks outwardly. And while I refuse to deny that we are visual creatures, what we see is not what keeps us. Perhaps a broader view of the male gender on the whole is what is necessary for you to see that not all men are what you’ve painted in your mind’s eye. Beyonce’s are nice…but love is better. Trust that I get it, fully and completely, however, thank you as always for sharing your viewpoint; we’ll agree to disagree.

  2. MR.BLACK-OP

    The issue stated really is a problem. Sure, attractive women are nice to look at, but theres more to relationships than that. Connection at an intellectual and emotional level is what really matters. All we really want is a deep connection with someone who truly understands us, and while attraction may be the bait, the mind is the hook (and having a dull hook doesnt catch a fish).

  3. Amen to that, Mr. Black-Op! Attraction gets you in the boat, doesn’t keep you there though. Thanks for coming by and reading! I appreciate it!

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